Dear Delaney: Back to School
Delaney Jackson, Editor of Content
August 21, 2017
A new school year means a whole new round of dating problems and dramas. Whether it has to do with backstabbing friends, distance, or suspicious behavior, the solution is not far away!
My ex-boyfriend and I had a messy breakup at the end of last school year and I confided in my best friend about it. I noticed that she was flirting with him and hanging around him a lot this summer but she promised me it didn’t mean anything and that she would never date him - of course! Now that we are back at school, I found out that they’re dating and she went behind my back. How do I deal with losing a boyfriend and a best friend so close together?
-Lone Wolf
As terrible as this is (it really is an awful situation), this could be a great opportunity for you to grow. I hope that this experience has shown you that you don’t need any guy or girl who goes behind your back or makes you feel bad about yourself - you can be strong by yourself! You can be strong on your own and, when you are, you will meet people who support you and are loyal to you in every way.
The start of a new school year is an awesome time to start something new to fill your time and meet some new friends. Join a school club, take knitting lessons, do something fun and different to stretch yourself - you can do this!
So I am a junior and my girlfriend graduated last year. She’s going to college in Michigan and I really really like her and want to stay together but I don’t wanna hold her back from having fun in college. Should we try to stick it out or should we break up now to stay away from the long distance thing? I just don’t know.
-Set her free?
The last thing you said was “I just don’t know” and I think that’s the key you’re looking for. You simply don’t know unless you try and you have to consider if you’re willing to always wonder ‘what if?’ If you at least give it a shot when she goes to college and it doesn’t work out, you will know that you tried but if you give up, you will never have your answer.
If she starts feeling like you are holding her back, that is her responsibility to let you know - if you still like her, stay with her, simple as that. If your relationship cannot withstand a little distance or if you two aren’t willing to put in the effort of long distance, maybe the relationship wasn’t that strong to begin with. I say risk it! It is better to know that to wonder in every situation, especially when it comes to love.
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