Ask Alli

Alli Barnette, Staff Reporter

I feel like I’m losing my best friend and I don’t know what to do. How can I save my friendship?

I feel like this is a very natural feeling. I mean friendships come and go, but losing your best friend is a scary thought. I would first evaluate yourself. Make sure you are treating your best friend the way they are supposed to be treated, your best friend might be spacing themselves because they are not being treated correctly. If you have been the usual awesome best friend that you are, then address how you are feeling with them. Your best friend might be going through something and just need space for themselves. Whatever the reason is, make sure you respect what’s happening and their boundaries. A friendship is a relationship; it takes two. They are your best friend so I am sure they will be open to talk about whatever is happening. 


How do I deal with my stress?

If you are like me you have a job and work hard in school. I understand it is hard to find time for yourself if you have a busy lifestyle, but the most important thing you can do is take time for yourself. Run yourself a bath, read a book, play with your dog, hangout with friends, whatever you can do to help relieve stress, do it. I always tell myself there’s no need to stress about something you can’t fix. So let’s say you fail a test, there is nothing you can do to change it so just think about what you can do differently next time. You just cannot be too hard on yourself. You are a human being, the most natural thing you can do is make mistakes. Just accept it and remember to breathe. 


Me and my boyfriend just broke up, how do I get over him? 

Healing comes and goes in waves. You can be on the top of the world one day, and in bed crying the next. The first thing you can do is let go of all the stuff you have of him. If there are some things that you want to keep (like a nice necklace, pictures or comfortable sweats you stole) feel free to put them in a box and keep them in a place you will not see often. This just helps you not think of him as much and will help the healing process. The next thing you can do is to not blame yourself for what happened. I believe relationships that do not work out are really for character development. As Kelly Clarkson says, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” (and she is right). The last thing you can do is just keep pushing forward. I know it is painful and that you probably miss him, but you will look back on this and know it is for the better. I know it is cliché, but everything happens for a reason.